The Wedding Dance Specialists The Wedding Dance Specialists
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" We turned our dance lessons into a dinner and dancing date! It became a welcomed weekly escape from our hectic wedding planning." Cindy Rich, Newlywed and Assistant Editor of Washingtonian Magazine "

February 2009 Newsletter

Dance Tip: Choosing a Song for the First Dance
Pick a song that is meaningful to both of you. Did you share a romantic moment to a special song? What love song was playing in the background on your first date? What song brings tears to your eyes or gives you butterflies? What song inspires thoughts of the one you love? The music you choose will determine the type of dance that is appropriate. If you are undecided, your instructor can demonstrate a variety of dance styles and provide a list and samples to listen to in class. Knowing which styles of dance you prefer can help you decide on the song. If you are unfamiliar with dance styles you may simply want to imagine the mood you want to feel and project as you are dancing. Do you want your dance to look simple and elegant? Classic and traditional? Peppy and cheerful? Sensual and romantic? Elaborate and Showy? Share your vision with your instructor.

Wedding Planning Tip: Why hire a wedding planner?

Every bride wants her wedding day to come together with as little stress as possible.  So many ask, “Should I hire a professional wedding coordinator?”  If you have a tight budget, you definitely want to consider hiring a coordinator.  One of the most needed services they can provide for you is negotiating with vendors to stay within your budget.  The goal of a coordinator is to give you the best wedding for the lowest possible cost.  And most importantly, a coordinator will ensure your wedding day flows smoothly and will resolve problems for you to keep the stress levels down on your wedding day. 

How much will a coordinator cost you?  A coordinator’s services are charged in one of three ways, a percentage (10% - 15%) of the total wedding, by the hour or a flat rate that can range from $500 - $2,800 depending on their experience and location.  Is it worth the expense?  Yes, it is.  Some of the things a coordinator will do for you is coordinate with all of your vendors 1-2 weeks before the wedding, provide all of them a detailed itinerary for the wedding day, provide the bridal party with detailed itineraries for the wedding day, and coordinate the details of the ceremony rehearsal (seating of family and guests, responsibility of the ushers, order of the bridal party).  On the wedding day the coordinator arrives 1-2 hours before the ceremony to assist with last minute details and emergencies and to ensure all of the vendors fulfill their contracts.  At the reception the coordinator will ensure things flow smoothly and in a timely manner (serving the food, toasts, cake cutting).  Most importantly, a coordinator will make sure EVERYONE enjoys every moment.

Many brides consider using a friend or family member to coordinate their wedding day because they volunteer to do it for free.  While this may be the case, they don’t have the knowledge or the experience needed to handle situations that may arise (the wrong color flowers, the cake doesn’t show).  Neither do they have the same taste or style as you or share your wedding day vision.  And besides, you’ve put a lot of time into planning your wedding; do you want to end up working at your own wedding?  You should be able to enjoy the entire day and so should your friends and family members.

If your site has its own coordinator, keep in mind they have the interests of the establishment in mind above everything else.  They will make sure the responsibilities they have been paid for are taken care of (i.e. the menu, cocktail hour, starting and ending on time).  But a site coordinator will not negotiate with any vendors, verify the time they will arrive to set up, give you reminders as your wedding day gets close, except for their payment of course, or assist you with any last minute details that may arise.  If your DJ doesn’t show, they won’t find you another one.  If something is wrong with the cake, they won’t try to fix it.  And at the end of the day the site coordinator won’t make sure all of your gifts are taken to a designated location so you can claim them after your honeymoon.  The site coordinator does just what their title says, coordinate the site.

So to be able to sit back, relax and look back on all of the unforgettable memories your wedding day will be filled with hire a professional coordinator so that you only have to worry about being the bride and groom.

Wedding Movie Review: 27 Dresses

Directed by Anne Fletcher. A romantic comedy. Always a bridesmaid, never a bride. After serving as a bridesmaid 27 times, a young woman wrestles with the idea of standing by her sister's side as her sibling marries the man she's secretly in love with.



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Dance Bloopers!
These are NOT our students!
We promise you will never look like this! We GUARANTEE that you will look and feel more elegant after ONE lesson with us than if you just try to "wing it". There are no "accidents" in dancing. Every mistake can be corrected or prevented using a specific technique. Dancing is a science made to look like an art!

It is the Groom's responsiblity to dip the bride. She should not dip herself. Also when dipping, it is not recommended to show off your Adam's apple!

Wedding Etiquette: Out-of-Town Guests

Although it is not necessary to plan entertainment for out of town guests, it is always a nice touch to offer activities, gatherings or other forms of hospitality to those who have traveled to celebrate with you on your special day.

An ideal way for friends and family to help with your wedding is to entertain out-of-town guests.  You should provide the hosts with a list of names and addresses so they can send out invitations to guests and plan accordingly.  If out-of-town guests are staying in private homes, their hosts should also be invited to attend gatherings.  Don’t forget to send a thank you note and small gift to the party hosts in appreciation of planning an event for your out-of-towners. Here are a few ideas for activities in honor of your out-of-town guests:

Rehearsal Dinner:  If circumstances enable allow many wedding couples invite out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner.  However if this is not an option than a friend or relative may host a cocktail party, barbeque or other gathering while the wedding party attends the rehearsal dinner.

On the day of an evening wedding:  Friends may choose to host a luncheon or brunch during the day of a late afternoon or evening wedding.

Golfing or sporting event: This is a fun and casual activity for guests to get to know each other and families to re-unite.

At a post wedding brunch:
  After an evening wedding most out-of-town guests stay the night.  If possible plan a breakfast or brunch for these guests, it makes a nice send-off.